What 21 taught me!

I'm a 22 year old lately and while I'm not always sentimental about birthdays and the likes I am very grateful to be experiencing life in human form.

21 was a very teaching year for me, what started as an exciting year ended on a personal note. So, I'm going to share lessons that proved pivotal!

It is human to err!

"Errors are absolutely essential to growth, embrace them!" said 21 to 22. I made a lot of mistakes and mostly be because I was naive! I'm accepting more and more that it is inevitable to fumble, especially if I hope to grow.

Grace is a superpower!

The only way I was able to handle my L's and keep going was through learned grace. Handling the ugly bits with "elegance" is a gateway to romanticizing my life.

Importance of self-awareness!

conscious knowledge of one's own character and feelings.

I believe every day is a new opportunity to learn more about self and while this is not always rosey - the journey is so worthwhile. Investing more in journaling and general introspection is something I intend to keep doing!

Not to take myself seriously!

If there is one thing I can bet on, all my life, it's my ability to entertain myself. I love my company so much I spend 90% of my time by myself. Unfortunately, my obsession with self has cost me so many friendships (can't comment on quality of said friendships). I tried a handful of new things at 21, like alcohol (thank goodness it's over) - I can absolutely attest that alcohol does not change the quality of my happy and I can do without. I've also relinquished the need to stick to routine and I'm wide open to new things.

Importance of understanding boundaries!

I'm a queen of boundaries. Or atleast I thought they were boundaries but I've found they were actually defense mechanisms. Filtering what is actually a boundary and what is a defense system is something I believe I get to work on for as long as I believe in growth - my boundaries keep me feeling safe with myself and at 21 I realised the point of boundaries for me. They are not to hide, nor to punish but to honour myself.

Adaptability!

There is a fire within each of us, and at times the winds in the world blow so hard they nearly take us out! This past year has placed me in various environments that require different versions of me. Some of these versions are versions that have shown me my weaknesses and have revealed my desires. In all environments I had to adapt, or try to. Whenever I have chosen to remain constant, I faced failure. Also, thanks for this new-found superpower of mine, failure has become a part of life.

21 was a ride, I'm much excited for what this new year has for me.

Thanks for indulging me, enjoy your Sunday.

Luxe Ledi.

x o